After a night like last night there are things a person needs.
*A breakfast that requires no work, but gets everyone full....check
*A warm shower with no peeking kids...check
*A day Thomas will play alone a lot, and Grace sleeps...check
*A trip home...check
*A trip to the spa and a nanny...working on it.
Last night Thomas was up from 1-4 with an hour of crying in between. As I laid in bed totally at a loss of what to do I started to try and remember when the last full night of sleep that I got was. I have become painfully aware that in the past 26 months I haven't slept. That's right a full 750 nights of interrupted sleep. And that is just going back to as far as when Thomas was born, it doesn't include my sleep issues during the last few months of pregnancy with him. AND I'm Tired. Thomas has never picked up on the sleeping through the night thing, and it is taking its toll on my mind, and my attitude. And even though Nolan has enjoyed many more nights of uninterupted sleep, it takes a toll on him too.
Now there have been some nights that he has done it, maybe 10% of the 750. This usually happens after a few nights of letting him cry it out for an hour, and it has left me with a feeling of Success to finally have gotten there, but then for a month he will be back to his lovely insomniac self no matter how much we let him cry. And to be honest, I am sick of the crying. We've tried everything sleeping with him, sleeping on the floor in his room, moving him into our room, white noise machines, fans/heaters, lullabies, prayers, humidifiers, the works. I just need a cure. I am not annoyed to wake up with Grace twice a night to feed her, or if Thomas needs a diaper change, that is fine. But when nothing is wrong why can't he sleep? Someday right? I mean there aren't 10 year old kids that wake up at night for hours at a time are there? ARE THERE?
And now as Thomas looks at me and talks to me in that jibberish that only he can produce asking me to play CARS, I think, "Really, don't you know what you have done to me?" And he really has no recollection of last nights events, and today should go on as any other. So I need to move on also and now I'm off to play CARS.
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I don't know sis. I am telling you I think he has farmer DNA in his genes so that he doesn't want to waste time senselessly sleeping. No suggestions here.
UGHHH! I am so sorry. I wish I had advice but I really don't. It seems like you guys have done everything. Lack of sleep really makes it hard to function somedays. I wish I could take Thomas in the night for you every once in awhile.
I tell Glen all the time that I wish we had a nanny in the evening and night time. And going to the spa sounds great too!
I am so sorry... I have been there done that. I remember the days when I thought I couldn't do one more thing I was so tired. Kids change over time, just stick to the PLAN and sooner or later they will catch on. Take little moments for yourself whenever you can, even if it is only for 30 seconds, just stop and breath and relax for yourself. Hang in there... Love ya!
oh you poor thing. Do they make sleeping pills for 2 year olds?
Whoa, I am sorry Ashley. Sleep is so vital to happiness and sanity! Sounds like you guys have tried it all. Hopefully he will magically catch on...soon! Until then, hang in there and really take a trip to the spa.
Oh my gosh I feel bad for you!!! That has to be so hard, especially now that you have two cute kiddies!! I wonder if you put him to bed at like 11 pm, maybe by the time he wants to wake up and play it is almost morning?? LOL maybe he will be sooo tired by then that he would sleep. Prob not..... but maybe worth a try?
I understand your inner ramblings too much! I hate to say it but we have nights were our 7 and 5 year old wake up at times. I think I have gotten maybe a total of 20 nights in all of fully uniteruppted sleep since I had my first kid! I feel your pain. As for the crying for no reason in the middle of the night, I think it is just a phase that he will go through, again and again until he is around 3 years old. that is just my experience with my non sleeping kids, so take it for what it is worth. It does get easier to deal with when they are older, but it is those younger years that are the toughest. Now I don't know if that made any sense at all, but good luck!!!!
ah, that does not sound fun. Luckily Adeline sleeps through the night, but there are weeks where she will cry for 3 hours straight and it is HARD. I hope that it gets better!
Wow, I read this post and others' comments and realize this really is just the beginning of sleepless nights with our 7 week old! It sounds like you've tried everything (so this probably won't help) but I'm reading lots of baby books and my favorite (Baby 411) has a big section on sleep - the author (a pediatrician) swears this Ferber Method is amazing. You put the baby down to sleep when they're tired (but not yet asleep), when the crying starts wait 5 min and then go in for a super quick visit (hi and bye, just so your baby knows you're still around), then wait 10 min, then 15, then 20 before going in again - it makes for an extremely long night, but supposedly the second night gets better, the third even easier and by the fourth night the baby is sleeping through it - sounds too good to be true right? And I guess Thomas isn't really a baby anymore...honestly I have no idea, just wanted to share. Sorry for the novel-long comment :) I think you're an amazing Mom!
I say they make Unisom for kids... addiction issues maybe.. but ohhh wouldn't that be nice:)
oh you make me feel soooooo much better knowing that I'm not the only one up at the wee hours of the night. It makes you INSANE doesn't it? Expecially when you have two kids to look after the next day. Except the fact that thomas is 2 doesn't make me feel better, cuz I was thinking the older they get the better they sleep, guess not eh? Well just know that I feel for ya!!!
hey did somebody move into your townhome, we always see lights on over there?
Have you talked to your pediatrician about it? My pediatrician had a bunch of books he recommended when Tanner was having some problems when he was younger. That definitely does not sound normal.
That's a toughie...hopefully it's a phase he grows out of quick, real quick. I can't imagine going that long without sleep. As far as the Lasik, you definitely should let Nolan get it. Erich got Lasik this last April. I was pretty hesitant but no regrets here. He absolutely LOVES it.
Oh bless your heart!! I wish I had advice. I just read RaeAnn's comment, and it made me laugh. Perhaps she is right. Hang in there, girl. Maybe he'll surprise you soon. Does he nap well during the day?
Oh I am so sorry about the sleepless nights! I am definitely not myself when I don't get a good night's sleep. Sorry I don't have any advice for you. It sounds like you have already tried EVERYTHING! Good luck. You totally deserve a trip to the spa.
Oh how tired you must be -one day hopefully he will make it through the entire night, Until then we will pray for you. Best of Luck.
Lack of sleep is no fun. I finally got Jamen to sleep in his crib. Next you will know that its time for another, and time to boot him out, and get him a bed, and he will be in our room:) Hopefully that will be in a year or so:) until then the crib is great. My Sister in law gives her kids sleep aid for kids. Good luck. Try dressing him warm? Best wishes that is no fun. I wish I could hire a nanny too.
Oh cousin!! I'm so sorry!! I don't know how you function seriously. I get worn out in the day and Kaleb sleeps!! Maybe you should drop the nap even though it's a precious thing??? I don't know. What does your doctor say? You need a break!!! I know Thomas isn't the best eater either so maybe he's hungry in the middle of the night? I've had to go down and feed Kaleb sometimes cause I couldn't think of why else he was crying. I asked Braydan and he said to sound-proof the door so you can't hear him :)
Awww bedtime! I'm sorry! I remember when I had Brooklyn it was tough for me too. Kenzie wasn't so bad with going to bed by then but she's an early riser. Consistency was key for us with both girls, we decided to let them cry it out, which was awful for the first few nights but it totally paid off in the end! I hope you find something that works so you can get some well deserved rest!
Oh Ashley...since we have made this new adventure to Texas...I finally know what people mean when they say there kids don't sleep at night. Ella is trying to adjust, but it is taking time, and I'M GRUMPY! That's all there is to it, it makes you so grumpy. So I guess we will try and love them dispite how obnoxious they are at times!
No sleep is the worst! Hopefully someday these kids will realize all the things that we sacrafoce for them but they are worth it! My sister's one year old is the same way. He will cry and cry for hours every night for no reason. That is so hard. I hope that you guys can figure out how to get him to sleep! Good Luck! Hopefully you will get some naps this week!
So, the day will come when church starts at 11:00 and you won't be able to get your teenage son out of bed on time. I promise, he will sleep someday. Oh, and by the way, when he learns to drive and is out, you won't sleep then either.
I'm so sorry too that Thomas won't sleep all night! I wish I could help you. I could stay up with him every other night when I'm having a sleepless night because of prednisone! We are praying that he will improve. I'm so proud of you and think you're a great mom.
I am soooo sorry, Ashley. I am going through the same thing with Lilly. She started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and then something happened and the last couple months she has been waking up and STAYING awake for up to 3 hours at a time. I am not one of those people who can live on little sleep and still be a sweet mommy- so I have been struggling- then to top things off, Reilly started waking up too. I seriously thought I was going to loose it. She started having bad dreams and would wake me up 1 sometimes 3 times a night. We started bribing her and it worked- if only I could bribe an 8 month old! Good luck... to me, too!!
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